What Movies Are on Your Most Watched List?

Okay people, I don't have a post on making New Year's resolutions or having a meanigful word for the year, but I have been thinking a lot about movies.

You see, I have been laying in bed since January third, because I have this cold (that I hear so many other people have had this first week of the new year), and today, after lounging between my white flannel sheets most of the day, I finally feel better and have a bit of energy to write a post.

For the last several days as I sprawl across the couch or lounge on my bed, I have been watching my favorite movies. You know, those feel-good movies that you own and watch over and over again. Those movies you watch when your hubby is out with his friends, or when you are folding clothes, or late Saturday afternoon when you need a break from carting the kids from one soccer game to the next, or when you are sick and in control of the controller! The movie that is a no brainer, you can watch any ol' time of the day - just to be entertained or to feel better.

So here is my list:

• When Harry Meets Sally (of course this is on the top of my list because frankly I have watched this movie so many times and it is STILL my very, very favorite-ist of all!)
• Love Actually (can you believe how these British actors pop up everywhere in all the movies that need a British actor - like is there anyone else in England that can act or what!)
• 13 Going on 30 (Mark Ruffalo rocks)
• Marley and Me (already wrote a post on that one)
• While You Were Sleeping (watched that one in bed this morning)
• Serendipity (John Cusack is the Man)
• Return to Me (I know, silly, silly, but good mindless entertainment)
• Dan in Real Life

Recently added to the list:

• The Proposal
• Just Like Heaven
• The Family Man

Add if I'm in the mood for it:

• The Thomas Crown Affair (don't you just love Rene Russo's hair - and hey, she is older than me in this movie and she can look like that! There might be hope just yet!)

What are the movies you can watch repeatedly throughout the year?

Can Men & Women Really Be Friends?

I think YES! I am a true believer that men and women really can be friends. Each are in the other half of the population and if we didn't have a male or female friend, well, I just think we would be missing out on learning more about life and others.


Movies on the Subject
One of my all-time favorite movies is, "When Harry Met Sally" (ya knew I was going to mention this movie didn't ya?). The first time I rented this movie, when it came out way back when, was when I was in college. I watched it five times that weekend, no joke. I was blown away with this movie and how different it was than any other. It was the first of its kind and many would follow, but never beat the originality of this movie.

In the movie it tackles the questions of can men and women can be friends. At first they say "no." No, women and men can't be friends; but after they go through a life crisis they become friends. Then one starts liking the other and then the friendship only relationship was off.

Harry Burns: …And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Julianne and Michael were best friends for a long time in "My Best Friends Wedding." Then the relationship changes when Michael announces that he was getting married to "Kimberly." Julianne starts getting jealous and thinks that maybe she does have feelings for her long-time, platonic friend. Maybe she just wanted to keep him and their friendship all to herself or maybe she really did have some underlining feelings of romance with him after all.

But I Am Married!
But can a married man and/or woman still be friends with the opposite sex? That is the question. I think they can be friends if they abide by four rules:

1. There is some sort of understanding that there is no chance that the two will ever get together,
2. There is a respect for the spouse and the spouse is comfortable and okay with the friendship,
3. The husband and wife relationship is strong,
4. Neither one likes the other more than a friendship or has strong feelings for the other.

If any of these are not true, then cut the friendship off.

Rules to Abide
Once you are friends with the opposite sex and you or he or both are married, there are also some more rules:
1. As a female, do not flirt; for goodness sake just stop that,
2. As a male, do not make any jokes about getting together or anything of the sort,
3. Do not talk personal stuff about the husband wife relationship,
4. Keep your friendship on a "professional" level.

Our Opposite Sex Relationships
I have always encouraged my husband to keep his female friends who he knew since before we met. Of the teams he coaches (and yes they are many) he coaches a city-wide women's ultimate team. Some of those gals have known him for longer than he has known me. I actually like knowing that he has a friend, that is a girl, other than me. It adds new perspective in his life. Although, I would like to add, that I know without a shadow of a doubt I am his best friend and he would never jeopardize our relationship so I am comfortable with these outside friendships.

Those People With Extreme Limits
Now, speaking from a female perspective, I do know some men who are kind of “weirded” out about females other than their wives. They don't hug ya and they don't spend more than two seconds talking to you at a party all-the-while their eyes are darting around searching out the party goers to see if anyone is watching them chat with you for those two seconds. Okay, I will honor that and I will never be friends with someone who doesn't just look at others as other human beings who can add just a bit more value in their lives (yes, I know, they could also have a jealous girlfriend or wife and need to be careful or maybe they are attracted to you and need to step away). People have limits and I will always honor those limits.

Working Relationships
I have worked with several men over the years and some in close proximity. With them I might ride in the car to business meetings, occasionally eat lunch, sometimes talk over the phone, and/or frequently exchange e-mails. I find these practices perfectly comfortable and normal, but regularly check myself to make sure that I am always honoring my husband in all that I do and say.

Question

So what do you think? Can a married man or women be friends with someone of the opposite sex? What other rules do you have for this type of friendship? Do you have such a friendship and how do you not jeopardize it as well as the spouse relationship?

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