Sorry for neglecting all of you since my last post, but I have been busy preparing my house for a party.
Valentine’s Day has marked some significant moments in my life: the key to our very first house two years ago and shared chocolate and conversation with some fabulous girl friends.
Every year I throw a Valentine's party for my girlfriends - even though my husband and family do nothing to celebrate the day together. That’s right, we don't give each other chocolates, flowers, or fight the crowds for a dinner out - although this year I made them a special breakfast and they found special treat on their plates. It's my girlfriends who get the special attention for that celebration.
‘The sending of Valentines was a fashion in nineteenth-century Great Britain, and, in 1847, Esther Howland developed a successful business in her Worcester, Massachusetts home with hand-made Valentine cards based on British models. The popularity of Valentine cards in 19th century America, where many Valentine cards are now general greeting cards rather than declarations of love, was a harbinger of the future commercialization of holidays in the United States.”
I started throwing these parties ten years ago when I found a truffles recipe in the Real Simple magazine and I thought it would be fun to invite my friends over to eat them and then started throwing a party every year since (except for two years after we bought our fixer-upper home). I don't make the chocolate anymore (it really is not that easy), although my oldest child gave me a Ghiredelli book on how to make chocolate treats last year and I still need to try a recipe out.
So why do I throw these parties every year for my girlfriends? 1) because I love and value the females in my life and they have been such great examples to me over the years, 2) there really are not too many opportunities for women to get together 3) I wanted to create a place for women to meet other women and get to know others outside their bubble world and 4) I think women get locked into their husband's and children's schedules and don't make time to do things for themselves.
We live in a post-college area near the beach where parties happen spontaneously. I'm sure they don't send out "save the date" e-mails and give their friends three weeks to check their calendar to see if they are available.
So at least for just a day, let’s get together and celebrate our girlfriends. We might be single, married, divorced, have one child, or several children – we can all still have moments of loneliness wishing they had someone who could relate to them or just get a chance to talk. We learn so much from each other. We support one another. We can relate to each other. Let’s get out and let us gals just be gals and not have to worry about someone else's schedule.